If you’re anything like me you always have a to-do list. I find it therapeutic to write down everything I need to do and methodically work my way through it. Or at least in theory that’s how it’s supposed to work.
Naturally, planning a wedding is one of the busiest times of your life. All of the organising that comes with the big day demands list after list after list. But now I’ve been there, done that so to say, rather than write a post about all of the things you should do, I’ve decided to write a post about the things you shouldn’t do. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and now that I have the power of it in my hands, I’m spreading a little wedded wisdom. Here goes.
1. Don’t underestimate just how emotional a day it is. Even the most grounded among us will find it a little overwhelming.
2. Try not to miss a thing. Look around you, process the fact that all of your guests are there for you and don’t take it for granted.
3. On the run up to the big day, don’t spend your life wishing the wedding will come around more quickly. You’ll discover when your day does arrive that the time goes far too fast.
4. Don’t stress about the small stuff. Something will invariably go wrong on the day – nothing is ever perfect – but remember the real reason why you are doing all of this.
5. Pleasing everyone is impossible. Throughout the whole process you’ll find yourself pulled in so many different directions. Remember who the day belongs to and make sure you both do what you want to do.
6. Don’t let everything rush by. Take a moment with your new wife or husband to let what you’ve just done sink in. Otherwise it could all turn into a blur.
7. Don’t let the planning get in the way. All the extra time spent with friends and family is precious.
8. Don’t worry about how you are going to look. Yes, this may sound crazy, but regardless of all the little niggles you might have in your mind about your appearance, nobody else will notice. In fact, everyone will think you looked more beautiful than ever before.
This sums up how I felt about our wedding and are just a few pieces of advice I would give others. What would you add to the to-don’t list?